Help with misdirected anger at the male ?

You have to forgive your father. I know it sounds hard and he may not deserve it but it's the only way you will truly heal. Some people just don't work out in marriage and I bet on some level both your parents are happy they split up. There are good guys out there and it's good that you are selective because women really should be and need to be because they are more vulnerable than a man is. I hope this helps you because you sound like you can use some good advice.